Friday, October 30, 2009

Is It Strange When Your Child Uses The Words "Dead" "Kill" "Ghost" "Blood" On A Weekly Basis?


So let me explain further. Actually let me pre-qualify the question. My adorable,sweet,loving,charismatic 4 year old son's bonding time with his father(my loving hubby) is watching SCARY MOVIES. I guess I should list them so you don't think I am being "dramatic Naima" . Now these movies are not watched on special occasions like in the spirit of "Halloween"...Happy Halloween by the way. They watch this all the time. So back to the list of my son's favorite scary movies to watch with his daddy.

1. Ghost Hunter's...now this I don't mind as much since it is documentary styled lol
2.Beouwolf
3.True Blood...yes you read it right. I will say in my defense if ever I catch him watching this I turn the television off immediately.Alas his daddy does not.
4. Any B horror movie on the ScFi channel

Okay I said I would never blog about this,only from sheer astonishment that he enjoys and actually bonds with his daddy over these shows/movies...and also fear of getting ridiculed ,though I really feel like a innocent bystander in this situation.

So speaking to one or 2 friends and professionals in child psychology. They have told me if my son is putting everything he watches in context and not having nightmares,leave it alone for a while and let the two guys bond. Hmmmm My son does not have not one single nightmare, and I ask him if he is scared when he watches these shows with his daddy. With a genuine smile he says "No Mummy, I love watching scary movies with Dad".

Aside from his advanced knowledge of death,killing,and blood well for a 4 year old. He seems pretty normal.

To all my mummy peeps out there in cyber world. What are your thoughts on this?

Have a happy and safe Halloween
xxx
N

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

"It Is Your Job"


This weekend my husband told me in a serious voice " Babes it is your job" to make Sunday dinner. I looked at him and replied " My job"? He went on to explain since my financial contribution has reduced drastically, he is the bread-winner and it is his job to give the family security and all the splendid luxuries we have. It is my job now to be the home-maker, mum and wife and all it's duties it entails( I also do real estate and and presently writing a screen-play). I must note that we do have a full-time nanny/house-keeper. Yet I was stunned by the way my husband described it as " my job" to make Sunday dinner and he further went on to list many other instances that would fall under " my job".

Normally I would go into detail my opinion on a topic I discuss but I am truly confused by this word "job" to describe what should be something natural as a wife,home-maker,Mum. I am going to leave this discussion completely open to all my friends, followers of my blog to help me understand what my husband meant by " my job"

xxx